New book released: Let It Go by Drew Rozell

Let It Go by Drew Rozell
Let It Go by Drew Rozell

Let It Go by Drew Rozell

I am thrilled to announce the launch of my new book, Let It Go: Manifest What You Really Want by Giving Up and Allowing.

The book speaks to the power of releasing resistance (versus pushing against anything) as the most powerful and effective way of allowing your true desires to come into your life.

I think this book is quite relevant and believe you will enjoy it.

It’s available now for a special price $6.99 digital, $8.99 softcover through Friday. (If you wait, it will just cost a few more bucks.)

Buying now would help me because the more sales, the higher the book goes on Amazon, the more buzz — you get the picture.

(You can read some cool early reviews here.)

So, your support is great appreciated.

 

To get the digital (Kindle version), just use this link…

 

To get the physical softcover version, just use this link…

 

THANKS!

WOO HOO!

Drew


Nothing will save you

I posted this video on my Facebook page the other day.

I had a little marathon of “The Wire” over the weekend, and the scene reminded me why I loved this show so much. Smart, well-acted, and just plain on point with so many social issues.

In this scene Lester (the black dude) offers McNulty some life advice, and the main gist is to have one.

A life, that is.

Have a life NOW.

Stop waiting for “the-thing-that-will-make-everything-cool-when-it-arrives.”

Because waiting only begets waiting.

Someone commented on my post, saying she needed the money to show up before she could get on with creating a life… and her comment inspired the words that follow.

 

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The money won’t save you.

The lover won’t save you.

The information won’t save you.

The mentor won’t save you.

The program won’t save you.

The career won’t save you.

The kids won’t save you

The sex won’t save you.

The doctor won’t save you.

The saving won’t save you.

The body won’t save you.

The miracle won’t save you.

The security won’t save you.

The facts won’t save you.

The plan won’t save you.

The fairness won’t save you.

The Universe won’t save you.

 

None of these things have the capacity to save you for the simple reason that you don’t need saving.

And when you approach your life as if you do, being the flawless creator you are, you always confirm what you choose to believe.

However, if you want to experience your desires —  if you want what you want, and you’re ready to have it — it’s time to start having what you want.

Now.

Because your life only exists NOW.

The past is irrelevant. And so is the future. Because neither exist in the moment of your true power, the moment where you create your reality…

That moment is always NOW.

So NOW would be the time to decide to have what you want.

NOW would be the time to let go of all the figments you’ve been using to keep yourself apart from your desires, the figments that keep you waiting for a time that can never come.

Allow yourself to feel the way you want to feel NOW.

You do this by simply making new decisions.

And you know how to make decisions.

 


Time to Let it Go (free call inside)

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The most twisted thought coming from apprentices of Law of Attraction is the one that says,” I shouldn’t be thinking negative thoughts.”

Because you will always think thoughts you don’t particularly like. In fact, those thoughts are among the most helpful that you ever focus upon because they are the thoughts that give birth to every new desire you have. In other words, the thoughts you don’t like are the ones showing you what you want right NOW.

So, if you’re busy condemning yourself for thinking something unpleasant, you’ll be condemning yourself every day. And that ain’t helpful. Instead, the idea is to let go of negative thoughts by allowing yourself to think them. When you shine a light on your crusty thoughts, they dissolve and move on. Seeing thoughts for what they are is much different than circling around them and dwelling (which isn’t helpful either).

Last week, I wrote this post on Christmas Eve in an attempt to let go of some heavy thoughts I was tired of carrying around every year…

And you know what? Taking my own advice worked.

Immediately after expressing myself and writing the post, I felt better. I did not feel great. I did not feel entirely good. But I felt better. And choosing to feel better sets one’s course in the wanted direction.

After sharing those thoughts, I took a long shower and an old memory popped in my head…

It was the year 2000. My father died rather suddenly in August and right before Thanksgiving my four siblings and I moved my mother into assisted living. The whole experience whipped up a tsunami of emotions ranging from grief to guilt with some sibling resentment thrown in for good measure.

As Thanksgiving arrived, all of my siblings had out of town plans with their families, and I found myself alone in my parents’ empty house for the holiday. On Thanksgiving Day I shared a sad, sterile meal with my mom at the facility. To raise my spirits, I decided to take myself out for a proper dinner, but all the restaurants were closed. I ended up alone in a booth at the only place serving, Betty Beaver’s truck stop. Returning home to the big empty house, I drank myself asleep on the floor, curling up with my dogs for solace. Not pretty.

Dealing with the loss of my parents was tough, but the sudden death of all the holiday traditions my family shared in this house proved to be the unexpected gut punch, the blow that did some hidden lasting damage. With our home base gone, so was the holiday family connection. Going forward, I would be the guest in someone else’s holiday tradition.

And so each year as the days grew darker and the holidays approached, I’d start to detach. I knew why my thoughts would grow heavy, why it was difficult for me, but I could never escape the feelings. It wasn’t until this year where things changed.

What happened?

I let go.

Now, you’ve heard that phrase many times. And it sounds quite good, doesn’t it? But what does it really mean to let go?

Letting go means finding your resistance and then laying it down.

And yes, while that sounds simple enough, application proves to be something more entirely.

After hitting my threshold of feeling low this year I decided to let go. Specifically, I decided I would no longer resist whatever feelings I had. It started with my sitting down and writing that blog post and looking my feelings in the eye.

After a few minutes at the keyboard, I could see how I’d been condemning myself for feeling the way I did. (Aren’t the holidays supposed to be the happiest time of the year?)

I should be feeling happy. 

Why I am feeling resentful when everyone else is celebrating? 

I know I am being a Scrooge and I really hate being this way…

In short, I resisted my own feelings instead of just letting them be what they were. When I allowed them — when I allowed these unpleasant thoughts the space to breathe and evolve, rather than trying to stuff them in a dark chimney — the dark skies cleared. This year, I had the most joyful, connected Christmas that I can remember since childhood.

Letting go works.

In fact, it works so well that the subject matter is irrelevant. If there’s something you want — anything from health to money to relationships to just plain feeling better — and it’s not showing up in your life, you can be sure there’s some habit of resistance keeping you apart from your desire.

 

So let’s change that.

 

As a thank you to someone who follows my work, and a bit of promo for my new book, Let It Go: Manifest What You Really Want by Giving Up and Allowing (coming January 2015), I want to invite you to join me for a free coaching experience where you will have the opportunity to let go of anything you’re ready to leave behind in 2014.

Again, the call is free and coaching will be delivered first-come, first-serve and you can be completely anonymous if you like.

I will tell you that this is the most powerful coaching I’ve done in my 20 years in the profession and my clients’ experiences have been deeply satisfying. (Join me and I’ll show you rather than tell you.)

The Let It Go: Dropping Your Resistance call is Wednesday December 31st, 2014

10:00AM EST – Noon EST.

Just register below for the call info and I hope to connect with you soon,

Let It Go! (free call)

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    Drew

    P.S. Thank you. You are appreciated.


    Thoughts on Christmas

    photo by Alex

    photo by Alex

    Christmas is a complex holiday for me. In this regard, I suspect I am not alone.

    I don’t know when it got so complicated, when I began snapping back and forth between troughs of grief and peaks of joy. And while I’m quite capable of speculating on the why’s, in the end I know the fruits of such analyzation to be flavorless.

    The weather outside my window matches how I feel. It’s gloomy and it’s pissing rain. And did I mention that it’s Christmas! The brightest, happiest day of the year? The day that’s supposed to be filled with dreams fulfilled and sunshine sparkling off every flake of newly fallen fucking snow? Hell, that’s the way I remember it! That’s the way it should be. This is all… wrong.

    Since Thanksgiving, I’ve been marking off the days, but not in anticipation. Let’s just get this shit behind us and move on with life. Blah. Blerch. Blargh.

    I wish I didn’t feel this way. I wish I could connect more to the spirit of the season. Especially because everyone else seems to be having such a good time (you are, right?). Especially because my own memory swears to me that the joy of Christmas morning is unparalleled. Especially because I really do get to see that joy reflected back to me in the eyes of my children… and yes, it’s quite wonderful.

    Like I said, Christmas is complicated, man.

    I share these thoughts for the same reason I write anything. It feels better for me to do so. And I want to feel the relief of letting go of the feelings I try to stuff in a closet at Christmastime.

    This is the time of year when I miss my parents. This is the time of year when I feel intense pressure to meet the expectations of others. This is the time of year when I feel the powerful disconnect of hanging on to some idealized vision of the past that the present cannot seem to touch.

    I suppose I want to let myself off the hook here and remind myself that this is okay. It’s perfectly fine. In fact, it’s perfect.

    I can let go of all of my ideas about what Christmas should be, I can give up that silent fight — the fight that inevitably leaves me bruised —  and I can decide to allow myself to just be with the feelings that surface. To look them in the eye. To acknowledge them with the respect and appreciation they deserve. To let them be what they are. To let me be who I am. And to see what’s really here NOW.

    Let the adventure begin.

    Happy Christmas,

    Drew


    The Chair and the Floor (Gratitude and Appreciation) reprint

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    (this is a reprint of mine. one of my favorite distinctions and I’ve yet to come up with a better example than the one in this article)

     

    Every year about this time I like to share a distinction between gratitude and appreciation. I do so because I believe the thoughts you choose to think determine what you create down the line. In short, the most efficient way to create more of what you really want is to develop the awareness of how your thoughts really feel, and then consistently choosing the ones that feel better.

    So this distinction is not mere wordplay, but rather a gateway for super-practical mindset that can dramatically improve the quality of your life.

    While discussing this point during my last Very Cool Life live event, one of the attendees, Jacob, was not seeing eye to eye with me. Our conversation led to a concrete example that I am inspired to share here.

    When I assert that you can do better than gratitude, it’s not usual to experience the kind of pushback Jacob offered. Most everyone holds a positive association with the idea of gratitude, and in the larger scheme of things, it is a fine thought. To some, suggesting that you can do better than gratitude is like saying you want to tinker with grandma’s famous apple pie recipe…

    Why fix it if it ain’t broke? Why change now after years of tradition? And hell, just about everybody loves it…

    Well, for starters, you may want to upgrade for the simple reason that we now know better. We evolve. We learn new stuff and discover more efficient ways to get better outcomes all the time.

    Sticking with my analogy for a minute, I am suggesting that when you decide to upgrade to an Appreciation pie, you will enjoy even more baked deliciousness (what you really want), without ingesting any more of grandma’s secret ingredient – the artery-clogging, trans-fat-laden shortening (what you can do without).

    Okay, back to Jacob and our discussion…

    “Jacob, tell me something you’re grateful for, right now,” I began.

    “My chair!” he replied with enthusiasm.

    “Good. So what thoughts of gratitude does your chair evoke?” I asked.

    Jacob replied immediately. “My chair keeps me from having to sit on the floor!”

    Oh how perfect, I thought to myself… Better than any example I could think of…

    “So Jacob, you said you were grateful for the chair, right?” I asked rhetorically.

    “Well, yeah…” he said.

    “Then why are you talking about the floor?” I added.

    Jacob thought quietly for a moment as the words lingered in the room.

    “Well, I don’t want to sit on the hard floor, of course. And this chair keeps me from having to sit on the floor, so I am grateful for that,” he said.

    So perfect, I thought…

    “Do you notice as you focused on thoughts of gratitude, you unconsciously and immediately began focusing on what you DON’T want?” I asked.

    Watching Jacob’s face, I could see the new idea starting to beginning to take hold. New, better ideas often take some time to penetrate a long-held belief.

    To complete the distinction, I asked him to tell me what he appreciated about his chair.

    While this would seem like a very simple question, the answer requires a change of focus from thoughts of gratitude. And unless you’re in the habit of generating lists of appreciation, it’s likely not your dominant response.

    Jacob scrunched his forehead, and while he caught himself from reflexively talking about the floor again, he remained unable to connect to thoughts of appreciation.

    To clarify, I asked the question in a slightly different way…

    “What specific aspects of this chair do you really like, right in this moment?”

    He nodded. “Oh. Well, it’s pretty comfortable,” he offered.

    “What else?” I asked.

    “The lumbar support is pretty good,” he added, “And I like the firmness of the seat… The swivel lets me turn to the sides easily to see who’s talking in the room.”

    He was rolling. Fantastic.

    “Okay now, here’s the whole enchilada… How do these thoughts – the thoughts about what you like about the chair – feel compared to thoughts about sitting on the floor?” I asked. “Do they feel better or worse?”

    “Better.”

    (As he said the word, I imagined myself saying, “No more questions, your honor,” and triumphantly walking back to my lawyer seat to the jury’s applause. But I digress…)

    When you think thoughts that feel better, you create better outcomes. This is the simple Law of the Universe. And don’t you want to create better outcomes? Of course you do…

    However, in order to leverage this Law of the Universe, you’re required to pay attention to the feelings generated by your thoughts.

    This is the catch. This is where most people drift.

    Jacob had no clue that his thoughts of gratitude connected him to unwanted thoughts and feelings. Most people don’t, because we’re all trained to have such positive connotations with the word gratitude.

    Now it’s worth mentioning, that people sometimes use the words gratitude and appreciation interchangeably. Fair enough and again, the point is not one regarding word choice, so if you’re married to the term “gratitude” and notice that in your practice, you focus solely on the wanted aspects of things, great. That’s the takeaway here.

    That said, in my years of studying this and talking to people like Jacob, I’ve noticed that when sharing thoughts of gratitude or thankfulness, 85% of people end up unconsciously focusing on thoughts of “the floor.”

    It usually goes something like “I am so thankful for (this thing in my life).” And the very next unspoken thought is “Thank God (that unwanted thing) is not in my life.”

    The chair. And then the floor.

    The wanted. And then the unwanted.

    See what happens when you decide get off the see-saw and just appreciate the chair.

    You’ll feel the difference.

    Get in the practice of appreciation, and in a short time, you’ll see the difference.

     

    Have a wonderfully relaxing holiday…